some people tend to ask, well, simple question like : “Do i look fat?”
if in my opinion, that person doesnt look fat, then of course i will answer : “No you dont. You look good,” -sometimes my answer can satisfy them. but in many times they will reply with : “But i am fat. i am gaining weight, etc…” yadda yadda yadda…
well ok then. the next time people ask me difficult question, i will ask them back : “Do you want to hear the truth or do you want me to give you the-answer-you-wanna-hear?“
will i be rude, then?
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OMG…thank you SO MUCH for posting this because I TOTALLY agree with you!!!!
And no, you will not be rude.
I have a tendency to give honest (but tactful) answers, because if ever “I” ask someone a question I expect them to be honest with me.
So, I always preface before answering a question, with, “Well, do you really want to hear my answer, or the answer you really want?”
Usually they say, “Give me your honest opinion.” So I do.
This is very womanly of us you know! lol. We love to ask but never want to hear the truth “really”. hehe:) Great post. love you tons
PS: A sister, “Deros” has recently reverted to Islam.Allahu Akbar, It would be great to show support and offer some valuable advise to her… See her latest post “Tea Party” at http://teacoffeeparty.blogspot.com
I agree – give them the answer they dont want to hear – the honest answer! Most people that ask ‘Do I look fat in this?’ are looking for an appraisal rather than the truth. Be tactful, be nice, but above all be truthful!
It’s easy to believe someone when they’re telling you exactly what you want to hear. But, if someone has enough courage to ask you a question seriously, then you should be brave enough to answer truthfully!
I think that the hardest thing about searching for the truth… is that sometimes we find it.
Nice too see someone else that can tell it like it is … and do it with some class and respect!
Hmmm…I think when people ask that question they are almost saying, “I need to be encouraged, my self-esteem is low right now.” Although I try not to lie, I don’t think it is wrong to lift a friend up and compliment them “You look great, I think you are beautiful..” and then ask, “Are you not feeling good about yourself right now?”
Just my two cents.
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