if in my opinion, that person doesnt look fat, then of course i will answer : “No you dont. You look good,” -sometimes my answer can satisfy them. but in many times they will reply with : “But i am fat. i am gaining weight, etc…” yadda yadda yadda…

well ok then. the next time people ask me difficult question, i will ask them back : “Do you want to hear the truth or do you want me to give you the-answer-you-wanna-hear?“

will i be rude, then?

remember kiddos, dunia itu berputar, senantiasa berputar and we have KARMA. K.A.R.M.A. someday, you might work for those you have bullied in your past. and they will be the one who sign your pay check. and they can fire you! what will you do then? kiss their ass and hope that they will forget the pain you have caused?

i saw some bullies, among my students. and thats just sad because i dont always have enough courage to stop them. this post, so far, is the best i can do for now.

dear you, you know who you are.

do you really need to let other people down so just you can feel special and powerful?

moreover…

i think parents and teachers should do something about this bullying-issue. we should give explanation to kids since their early ages, that bullying is not cool. bullying is not a game (in the end of the game, everybody will be happy). and bullying will hurt people’s feeling (the victims) and make them sad for quite a long time.

i used to be emotionally-bullied too back in elementary school, and i held the grudge for years before finally be able to forgive them and forgive myself.

inspired by : http://bit.ly/cJw5bR and  http://bit.ly/aMgnRw

Peer pressure when you are 30++

so i guess that ‘adult peer pressure’ happens everywhere in the world. in our country, well we have that kind of  ‘adult peer pressure’ too. i call it, the never ending WHEN-questions.  it started when we’re around 17 or 18 y’ol.

WHEN will you have a girlfriend/ boyfriend?
WHEN will you graduate from college?
WHEN will you get a serious girlfriend/ boyfriend?
WHEN will you get a better job?
WHEN will you get married?
WHEN will you get pregnant (this is THE WORST ‘when-question’ for married woman with no child yet, LIKE ME!)
WHEN will you have another child?
WHEN will your baby be able to do this and that?

and the list shall continues till the end of our life. ha! And unfortunately, it is consider polite to ask questions like those. Oh dear God

Probably I shud put aromateraphy with Jasmine fragrance too. To make it more calming and refreshing

Do check by yourself, it’s on the archive menu on the right.

One thing I recognize from my old posts was that, I often blog short posts which contain only 3-4 sentences. Sometimes they are only 2 sentences (less than 140 characters). It’s just like twitter, hahaha.

But of course, I haven’t got any twitter account at that moment (on 2006). I made my first twitter acc on 2007 but at that moment, none of my friends has twitter acc. So I abandoned that account for 2 years before finally deleting that account and made a new one.

I enjoy tweeting, so much. But blogging is better because you can post longer story.

After graduated from university on 2005, my best friend informed me that this school was looking for a new teacher. Then I applied for the position and to everybody’s surprise, I was accepted here. It’s been 5 years now.

On 2006, around July, I met a young teacher at the teachers’ office. His office didn’t located at the same room with me. So I rarely met him. From my colleague, Mrs. C, I knew that his name is Mr. M and he’s a very nice and helpful man.

On 2007, 2 days before Valentine Day. We started to get involved in intense communication and mostly via sending messages at Friendster. We went together once, and he visited me when I was sick. And 3 weeks later, we started our relationship.

It only took a year of dating and then we got married. See? I am so blessed and lucky to have this job at this school. Not only I can have the experience in teaching at a good school, but also I met my soulmate here

I don’t have time for my friends. I didn’t visit them when their mom passed away. I didn’t know when their mom was hospitalized. I didn’t come to their wedding day. I didn’t visit them at the hospital when they gave birth to their children. I’m a lousy friend. When I was still be able to go anywhere with my motorcycle, I couldn’t go because I was too busy with works here and there.

When I’m now only have 1 job, I can’t visit them anytime I want because I’m no longer be able in riding my motorcycle and becoming dependent to other people to drive me everywhere I wanna go.

I always have these excuses. I’m guilty for becoming a selfish friend. Corrupted with my works and stuffs.

Astaghfirullohaladhim ….  Forgive me God. I’m very sorry dear friends….

1) From those 3 president& vice president candidates, non-voted voters doesnt believe in any of them.
2) Actually they want to vote, but at that moment they were traveling or were forced to work [although it was actually a national holiday] and they cant vote at their work-place/ during their trip [for example, they cant vote at the bus-station, train-station, or at the airport]. This is because, registered voters should vote at the specific location, near the address stated on their ID-Card. So registered voters cant vote at wherever place they want.

Beside these non-voted voters, there were also lots of people like me, who really wanted to vote, but somehow, we werent registered. The government is the one to blame, related to this issue, because in Indonesia, the government is the one who should list the voters. From house to house. Unlucky for me, the government official didnt list my house, so I wasnt registered.

But 2 days before the Election, the government issue a new policy which said that:
Those non-registered citizen could come to the nearest ballot [based on the address stated on the citizen’s ID-Card], and then we can vote by showing that ID-Card. THANK GOD then, I could vote! I was very happy. The pic above showed the paper with the pics of those 3 candidates [president& vice president], and I chose number 3.

Mr. Jusuf Kalla [present Indonesia’s vice president **] as the candidate of President.
and…
Mr. Wiranto [a retired Indonesian army General. He was Commander of the military of Indonesia from February 1998 to October 1999, and ran unsuccessfully for President of Indonesia in 2004. He is running for the vice-presidency in 2009. **]

Unfortunately, from those 3 couple-candidates, Mr. Jusuf Kalla and Mr. Wiranto only got less than 10% from total votes. The couple-candidate that got the highest percentage is Mr. Susilo Bambang Yudhoyono with his vice-candidate Mr. Boediono : almost 65%. The other couple-candidate: Mrs. Megawati Soekarnoputri his vice-candidate Mr. Prabowo reach 25%.

Of course I was sad, but then I realize that to build our nation, doesnt exactly have to be President. Mr. Jusuf Kalla can still contribute many things to Indonesia through many other ways. InsyaALLAH….

By the way, Mrs. Megawati Soekarnoputri is the daughter of Indonesia’s founding father aka Indonesia’s 1st President : Mr. Soekarno. And Mr. Prabowo used to be married to the daughter of Indonesia’s 2nd President.